the one that got away

A few years ago I got a phone call from an ex-boyfriend. He was telling me a story about how he had been out to dinner with a group of business colleagues. They were all going around the table talking about that one they regret letting get away.

He told me when it came around to his turn, a waitress appeared. She introduced herself because their previous server had left and she would be taking care of them. Guess what? Her name was Andra. He then continued that a Bon Jovi song came on. (For those that don’t know me, I’m a HUGE Bon Jovi fan, and this ex happened to take me to my first Bon Jovi concert!) Needless to say, all signs pointed to me being his “one”.

A couple years ago another guy from my past hit me up on Facebook. We’d been friends for a while, but hadn’t really had any personal conversations. He reached out to me after seeing a post that led him to discover that I was recently single again.

While we never dated, he confided that he had loved me. While he was engaged to someone else, he knew that marriage wouldn’t last and he told me he hoped I would wait for him. When he learned I was getting married he was saddened, but his wish for me was that I would be loved and provided for since he wasn’t able to take that role. He admitted that it hurt him to learn I didn’t have a happy ever after and how he has regrets learning that.

Last week I got an email from the guy who most recently broke my heart. He told me how he never said enough how beautiful I was and how much he really loved me. He regretted how much he hurt me and how he really wanted to come give me a big hug.

A few days ago I got a text message from a guy I had been dating casually, but he had dropped off the radar for several weeks, and I moved on. All he said was he missed me. I can’t help but wonder… if he misses me now, how much more will he regret not making me more of a priority while we were dating.

All of this leads me to question…. Will I ever date a guy who realizes what he has while he’s with me, instead of years later when he’s reflecting on his past relationships and regrets in life (probably while listening to Hello by Adele!)???